Whatever Has To Happen, Will Happen

Today I decided that I will take a break from my heart and let things happen so that whatever needs to grow can grow. Perhaps it is time to stop locking in my emotions and instead let them run free without fear or repressing them. I think I have to give myself a chance to stop forcing things and go against the tide.

There were times when I chased experiences that weren’t meant for me. But instead of breaking free of them, I was hoping that they would go exactly the way I wanted them to. I’ve forgotten the side effects of trying to adapt the world to me. And with that, I’ve done a lot of damage.

So if something has to come now, I’ll let it come. I will wait with the doors open and my feet on solid ground – but no chains. Because chains are never good, especially not the invisible ones that you put on yourself, and of which you then forget where you have hidden the key. I say goodbye to inhibition, fear, pressure, cold, panic and excessive control.

Whoever has to come let them come. Whoever has to go, let them go. Whatever has to hurt, let it hurt. Whatever has to happen, let it happen.

Mario Benedetti

Forced situations: the side effects

Most of the time, I am wrong when I think that I am in control of my emotions. This is because I am overly cautious with my emotions, which leads me to force situations and completely lose control. Suppressing, denying, or hiding your feelings instead of letting them grow keeps you from listening to yourself and getting to know yourself better.

I’ve noticed that sometimes I either want to brake or accelerate, want to run away only to regret later not being honest myself while looking for that honesty in other people. And I am aware that I have lost opportunities. I let cars and trains go by that could have brought me closer to happiness.

Forcing things always leads to a state of malaise and dissatisfaction, which hide inside you and turn into negative energy. If you try to do this, you will pay a heavy price for it because the negativity you feel within you can lead to physical and mental exhaustion. Suppressing your feelings won’t stop them from looking for a different outcome or from becoming some kind of illness.

How to make things happen naturally

Now I’ve realized that when you break out of exhaustion and let things happen the way they have to, everything starts to fit together. The walls collapse and the world takes its natural course.

I have no more than a handful of kisses and an army of caresses for
no reason to attack you,
but I’ve seen entire cities
collapse over a smile much less beautiful than yours,
so go on, shuffle the cards once
because we’re gonna play right here.

Pablo Benavente

It’s about not making hasty decisions about the unknown. It’s also about not rushing ahead of things that haven’t happened yet and letting the future unfold in harmony without trying to avoid or change it before it has even happened.

How can you do that

The first thing to keep in mind is that letting things take their natural course and just doing nothing is not the same thing. Rather, it is about becoming aware that there are many things that you cannot control. Understanding this will help you run into the same wall over and over again. Life is constantly changing and unpredictable, and it takes your plans, your projects, and even you with it.

You have to remember that everything is temporary and that this too will take time. Rushing and asking too much can drain you. You have to be patient so that once you choose to wait, whatever has to happen will happen.

Happiness comes with those things that you never planned.

Grey’s Anatomy