Every Day I Feel Less Perfect

Every day I feel less perfect and I don’t mind. Yes, it actually makes me proud, it makes me feel freer and more authentic. Now I walk through life at an easier pace, with no other people’s weight on my shoulders, no thorns in my heart. There are no more stones in my path to stumble over on my hopeful journey to more harmony and more opportunity.

All of these ideas can be summed up in the words “personal growth”. And it has described numerous approaches, strategies, and skills that you can use to take the plunge and invest in yourself. However, it is not entirely easy to find these hidden talents, bring out the best in yourself, and face the horizon with a clear mind and a fiery heart. The publishers that distribute the relevant literature are aware that the readers of works dealing with personal development and growth are mostly women.

“What do I need feet for when I can fly?”

Frida Kahlo

Women try to push the boundaries of their own living conditions. They do this so that they can grow, change their environment and society, even if these changes take place very slowly and society continues to be dominated by the male gender.

In our world, personal growth is an essential requirement in every area of ​​life. Every company, every project is governed by the same law: Either you grow or you disappear. It looks a little different on a human level. Sometimes growth here means stopping being afraid to speak up. That you dare to question established norms and show your own abilities. More than ever, women are advancing and breaking barriers in this area.

Personal growth means growing beyond yourself

Most of our readers have heard of Abraham Maslow’s famous hierarchy of needs. According to this theory, which he developed in 1940, self-actualization is at the top of the hierarchy of needs.

What not many know, however, is that Maslow himself discovered two decades later that his theory was flawed: the search for self-actualization involves focusing all of our efforts and energy solely on ourselves. That we long to be able, independent, creative, courageous and, above all, self-sufficient. Maslow noted in this regard that most people interpreted the top of his pyramid as a kind of crown that an honorable person would receive if he saw himself as capable, strong and detached from his surroundings.

This interpretation gave the impression that there was no common good at the top of the hierarchy of needs, that it did not serve a higher purpose. That was the mistake. So he added another stage that went beyond self-actualization to correct just that: self-transcendence.

Interestingly, the need for self-transcendence is a trait that defines most women who nurture their personal growth and development. Modern women are sure of their identity and their potential. You don’t have to glorify yourself, you don’t have to be excessive. More than anything else, they try to go beyond their limits, to transcend what others have imposed on them. They want to connect with their environment in order to then change it.

Less perfect and free from other people’s expectations

Women don’t have to be perfect to be their best and to be successful. You just have to be yourself. Dr. Saskia Sassen, a Dutch sociologist and author best known for her work on globalization, explains that most of us are forced to adapt to a world that just doesn’t work.

“I don’t expect anything from anyone. Expectations always hurt. “

William Shakespeare

Therefore, women should understand that they must first free themselves before taking any steps towards the self-actualization and self-transcendence that they so crave. It is necessary that they break with the stereotypes, commands, prejudices, and outdated expectations that hold them captive.

It is not necessary to be perfect to be of value as a person. There is no such thing as a perfect body, a perfect employee, a perfect mother, a perfect girlfriend, or a perfect daughter or wife.

You are who you are and you deserve to be who you want to be. To achieve this, you need to set goals for yourself, work towards them with hope and passion. Furthermore, you should forget what other people expect and only act according to your own expectations because they are the only ones who have value to you.

Last but not least, it is important that you always remain yourself – free from contradictions, deception and prejudice. Only then are you able to live in harmony with your environment. Only then will you take care of yourself the way you deserve it. Only then do you do your best for the world and make it a little more respectful and dignified.