The Situations We Attract Reflect Our Needs

Our inner spiritual landscape is a mixture of our fears and longings, our nostalgic feelings and the things we think about. As a result, the people we attract seem to reflect our beliefs in some way. The beliefs that we have and value about ourselves and everything else. That is what constitutes the law of attraction.

Often times we let people into our lives that we never thought would fit. People who are different from us. People who help us understand and heal ourselves. Who help us to forgive ourselves and everyone else.

Sometimes we attract people who push buttons inside of us that we didn’t even know existed. People who have traits of character that we would never accept in ourselves. Attitudes that we don’t personally see in ourselves, but very good in others. In a sense, we may attract these very people. So that they can help us fight our inner struggles.

When we complain about what is in our life, it also means that we despise ourselves.

Why do we attract the wrong people?

Many people complain about their love life. Interestingly, however, they keep attracting people who don’t value them. That they neglect or do not give them priority. So if you have a tendency to attract partners who lie and cheat on you, it could be because you don’t value yourself. And that your self-esteem is cracking. The lack of self-respect makes you the perfect victim for these people. That is exactly what attracts them.

In turn, if you allow relationships that “go off the rails” for no good reason, it clearly indicates that something is wrong with you deep down. When we give space to these relationships, we are exposing ourselves to a very specific influence. Probably at some point we will also start lying and deceiving others. Then we describe ourselves completely differently from who we really are and how we want to be.

Self-knowledge is the key to attracting the right people into your own life.

Why do we only attract the wrong ones? This stems from the fact that we are a reflection of what we wear. The value that we ascribe to ourselves is the same as the value that the people we attract have. This is why we accept the love we think we deserve. Additionally, the fear of change will cause us to look for someone we are comfortable with. Therefore, we will always follow the same pattern.

“We live in the past. However, it is dead. If we continue to live the way we have lived, the future will be just like the past. Work on yourself, change something about yourself, in the present, then maybe the future will be different. “

Georges I. Gurdjieff

What we lure into our lives, we also need

The less we have progressed in our development, the more complicated and painful the situations that we will attract will be. When we lure argumentative people and contentious situations over, we are really attracting change and personal growth. The biggest lessons come from times of crisis. Or as Seneca put it so aptly: “Unhappiness paves the way for efficiency to fame.”

True maturity is when you accept as perfect everything that happens to you. Because that is the way to develop to perfection. When we realize that the problems we have are in large part opportunities for personal growth, we can be grateful for them and let them help us mature. But when we classify ourselves as failures, we throw our hopes and desires overboard.

Think seriously about it: Without indifference, without rejection, without ever having given up – would you be who you are today? At least in my personal case it is like this: Without all the negative things that I had to take on myself, I would not be able to enjoy my life today as I do now.

“I consider myself very lucky as a person. Nothing was easy for me. “

Sigmund Freud